Disconnection from Feeling and Intuition

Some people seem to live so naturally.

They know exactly what they want.

Whether it’s what they want to eat tonight, where they’d like to vacation next summer, or what career suits them best, they make decisions and plans with ease.

And they know exactly how they feel.

And they express it, too! (Do you ever see that as excessive?) They cry for joy or sadness. They get excited about good news and worried about the bad. They seem to express their emotions like it’s no big deal.

But for you, it can be like a performance.

You’d say where you’d like to eat… if you only knew where you’d like to eat.

You’d embark on a brand new career… if you had an inkling of an idea what that’d be.

You’d tell your partner how you feel… if you felt anything.

You’d be happy to cry… if something didn’t stop you whenever you got close to shedding a tear.

Wanting, planning, and choosing are not at all natural… they feel forced.

If you recognize yourself in these descriptions…

You’re not alone. There are a LOT of people out there who can relate. I certainly can.

You’re also not weak or crazy. On the contrary, look how far you’ve come without the advantages of being connected to intuition and emotion!

If you’re wondering how it came to be this way, I can help.

Here’s how we’ll help you reconnect…

We’ll start with a process I call “What’s On Top.” This involves getting in touch with whatever emotional or physical experience is most readily available and undefended.

For example, if you feel you need to cry but some defensive force inside of you is saying “no,” we’ll forget about the crying (for now) and practice noticing the feeling of “no.”

Or, for instance, if you feel like you ought to be happy but something inside you is numbing it out, we’ll forget about the happy (for now) and sit with the numbness or the “ought to.”

Because as perverse or maddening as it seems, isn’t it true that the “no” and the numbness and the “ought to” are just as much you as the crying and happiness?

Maybe we don’t love these parts, but that doesn’t change the fact that they ARE parts of us. So, doesn’t it follow that getting in touch with your “no” and your numbness are legitimate ways of experiencing your authentic self?

This strategy gives us good practice in feeling our feelings, honors our natural defenses, and reduces shutdown or overwhelm. Think about it: If you were in charge of guarding something vulnerable, would you like it if some person or therapist pushed you aside to get to it?

Once we know your defenses, we can go deeper into what lies beneath, starting again and again with what’s on top.

Once you’ve worked through the numbness and overwhelm…

You’ll have access to your deeper authentic feelings. You will have reconnected to your emotion and intuition.

Being connected to your guts and intuition, you’ll be surprised to have feelings and opinions about… anything you want to.

Life will feel like something you’re naturally guiding yourself through… versus the muted performance you’ve had to give day after day for so long.

It all starts here. Just click below and we’ll talk more during your free consultation.